Inspired to Reality

Question from a Reader
Is there one big secret that makes marriage or relationship work?

Many people struggle in relationships because they try to make their relationship into some unrealistic standard. Truly long lasting relationship are the furthest thing from a fairy tale–in today’s world, they would even be considered boring. You would never watch a movie on how your grandparents stayed together for over 50 years. If you did, you would see all the little things that would make their relationship unique as a snowflake. Every relationship has conflict and problems, the difference in long relationships is that each partner does not give up on the other. I speak to many couples and the one I know are destined for long, loving relationships are the ones that both individuals can visualize themselves growing old with the other. Again, what you believe will always be your reality. So if I had to simplify it into “one big secret” I would say it is commitment. If both people are committed to each other there will no obstacle too great for them to overcome.

Again couples that break up made up their minds long in advance that they wanted to do so. Relationship are always difficult at the beginning. You are still learning about each other and learning why you both think the way you do. Many couples just give up after a few years. It is sad since with this perspective, chances are they will not find true love. The truth is you can be happy with who ever you want to…you just have to commit yourself to that person. The catch now becomes, will that person return the commitment. Even if they do not, if you chose to be happy with this person regardless you will find a reason to forgive this person. Personally I do not think this is a healthy relationship, but I exaggerate to make a point. You decide you will be happy and then your experiences will fall into the necessary perspective to allow this to continue.

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