Thanks for the comment.

I wrote a blog post recent that was very similar in nature and now I just saw yours…I always find that happens that, I get an idea for a blog post, I write something and then I always find something similar written by someone else that re-affirms the idea!

Great post!

Amit

We do control our lives, but sometimes the reality is hard to come to grips with. As they say, the lie is sometimes more comfortable. But the lie only creates a situation where you are constantly haunted by you actions and decisions.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

Take care,
Kris

It was really so pleasing and satisfying to read the solution. One thing has become very clear to me and that is choosing the thoughts, actions and reactions to some extent depend on us.

It can be hard to remember that when we are in pain, no matter what the source, it’s always possible to use it for our personal growth. Instead of wallowing in it, or just looking for the quickest way to end it, we can learn from it, and see what the benefit is. I always remember: “Pain is inevitable; Suffering is Optional.”

Great blog, too! I’m glad I found it.

There are so many individual issues that are in play it is hard of me to generalize a solution for everyone. Most often it revolves around your family and friends since they factor heavily in what you “think” love and being in a relationship is all about. Again if your perception is broken, you will constantly be drawn into these scenarios.

What we have to do is look for the patterns because they will be there and become experts at recognizing why we attracted those types of people in the first place. Do you find yourself in relationships where you may be taken advantage of? People use you and walk all over you? How is your self confidence? Many times lack of self confidence will attract these “predators” who then feed off your inability to stand up for your self. It really is about balance. Because you may lack self confidence, you will always attract people that have an over abundance of it. Build your self confidence and you will find that these people will never bother you again. If they cannot take advantage of you any longer, they will move on to people that they can.

Do you have a tendency of meeting people that turn out to be unfaithful? Did you come from a home where either one of your parents was unfaithful or maybe you felt ignored or unloved by a parent? Sometimes when this happens we over compensate by over trusting and ignoring warning signs. Believe it or not, you built a coping mechanism to continue to love people that had hurt you. Again ignoring a problem is not solving it. To solve this, you need to learn the lesson and truly forgive the person who hurt you. Resentment and anger are just a sign that you did not learn from the event…how can be mad at a teacher or savior?

I like to think of it as learning to ride a bike. You only fall off and get hurt when you have not master it. Do not get frustrated. Think of the joy you will have once you have mastered it. Think of the joy you can bring to others teaching them your lessons. Knowledge and experience always take you to a higher level than if you did not have them. Life is not about the destination…it is all about how you got there. For every person that is unique.

“Are you seeing a pattern in the people you are attracting that you don’t like? You have to change what it is within you that is attracting them in the first place.”

People know this but don’t really understand and aren’t often aware of how to change these patterns. Often it can also be their reactions to another soul that often cause the same result too.

As a possible suggestion for your next post, it might be worth talking a bit about how to break that cycle.

Great post though and I love your writing!